Therapy & Therapeutic Coaching Sessions

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How I work…

Learning by sitting with and listening to

Over the past decade, I’ve had the privilege of sitting with thousands of people as they’ve begun (often reluctantly) the journey of deconstructing their faith.

In the early days, I had far too many answers. Over time, I realised that answers were usually the least helpful thing I could bring to the table.

What people truly needed was someone to sit with them and listen. Someone who understood how hard this is. Someone who didn’t tell them what to do or how to do it, but instead made space for them to process, grieve, and heal from the complex emotions that deconstruction brings.

In that space, people begin to trust their own thinking, reconnect with their emotions, rediscover their value, and start to shape what life after faith deconstruction looks like for them.

I’m a registered psychotherapist with COSCA, Scotland’s professional body for counselling and psychotherapy. My role isn’t to influence your beliefs or choices, but to support you in uncovering what matters most, working through religious trauma or spiritual abuse, and building a life that feels whole and fulfilling.

One person’s path to healing might be another person’s path of torture.

Deconstruction is not a one-size-fits-all journey

After working with so many people going through faith transition and deconstruction, I’ve seen numerous similarities, but never two identical stories. Each person brings a unique mix of upbringing, relationships, beliefs, and church experiences. What heals one person could be deeply unhelpful, or even triggering, for another.

One charismatic worship pastor might become a progressive Christian, another an atheist, and another lose all interest in religious discussion altogether. And if you tried to guess who would end up where, you’d probably be wrong nine times out of ten. (As your pastor’s last tweet about deconstruction probably proves.)

You are the expert of your deconstruction

That’s why I take a deeply person-centred and pluralistic approach to religious trauma therapy and deconstruction coaching.

You are the expert on your own story.
Not anyone else. Certainly not me!

You know best where you’ve come from and, in time, you’ll come to know where you need to go. That clarity often takes time but don’t let anyone convince you they know better than you do.

We’ve all spent enough years letting religious authority figures dictate our paths. There’s no need to climb back onto that merry-go-round for another ride.

No set path, just open exploration

Over the years, I’ve watched people with seemingly similar backgrounds end up in completely different places. That experience has made me deeply wary of prescriptive models or one-directional advice.

While some practitioners approach faith deconstruction therapy with a goal in mind, I work pluralistically. This means I believe that different things work for different people at different times.

For me, success isn’t about where you end up; it’s about you taking the reins of your life and moving in a direction that brings greater freedom, peace, and authenticity.

I couldn’t care less whether you identify as an atheist, a Christian, an agnostic, a pagan, or a Satanist. Any of those can be a success – if it’s a success for you.

Common issues in deconstruction

Faith deconstruction can touch every part of your life, emotionally, relationally, spiritually, and even professionally.

Whatever you’re struggling with is valid and worth exploring. There’s no set list, but here are some of the most common issues I help clients navigate:

Guilt, shame, and religious trauma recovery
Learning to trust your own thoughts and emotions
Establishing boundaries and autonomy after authoritarian religion
Processing toxic theology or harmful church teachings
Working through fear of punishment or hell
Deciding how or whether to tell others about your deconstruction
Feeling stuck, lost, or overwhelmed

Grieving relationships, community, or identity
Processing regret over past choices made under belief systems
Re-evaluating purpose and meaning beyond divine “calling”
Navigating work in religious organisations while deconstructing
Surviving in faith communities you’re not ready (or able) to leave
Managing complex family, friendship, or leadership relationships
Finding new community and connection after leaving faith spaces

And of course, there may be many other things you want to explore.

FAQs

How much will it cost?

Short answer – $50-90 / £33-60 per hour
Long answer – keep reading…

Why I charge…
I love being able to offer most of my work for free – from hundreds of online resources and videos, to research, writing, and connecting with people daily on social media.

But at the end of the day, I still need to feed my family and keep the lights on. To make this sustainable, I offer 1-to-1 sessions as a paid service.

A sliding scale: pay what you can afford
My standard rate is $90 (USD) / £60 (GBP) per hour.

However, I know we don’t all start from the same place. Some people face systemic barriers or economic hardship; others live in regions where that amount might cover rent or weekly groceries. Some have supportive partners and stable work, while others don’t.

Because of this, I use a sliding scale where we can talk about your circumstances and agree on a price that feels right for both of us.

The lowest rate I can sustainably offer at present is $50 (USD) / £33 (GBP) per hour.

Finding what feels right
Ideally, the fee feels like a balance:
— You’re investing in yourself and valuing the process
— You’re also valuing my time and care in walking with you

Only you know that point where it feels fair. Where it’s not a strain, yet not so low it undervalues the work we’ll do together.

If that makes you pause, that’s okay. Take a breath. Feel it out.

Want to talk about pricing?
If you want to discuss your situation, just DM me on Instagram or shoot me an email. I’m happy to chat and see what might work for you.

These prices are accurate as of October 2025

Why offer both Therapy & Therapeutic Coaching based on location?

I’m a fully trained pluralistic psychotherapist and counsellor based in the UK.

However, because I work with people all over the world, I can’t legally offer formal therapy everywhere as many countries and states require you to be registered locally to offer therapy.

I recognise, however, that local affordable therapy that is tailored to deconstruction and religious trauma is not always available, and when it is, it is not always affordable. Therefore, I offer therapeutic coaching to individuals in this position, which shares the same heart, presence, and skill, but is framed differently for ethical and legal reasons.

While this is not formal psychotherapy, I draw deeply on my therapeutic training and experience to help you move forward in meaningful, healing ways. I offer a safe and supportive space to discuss your faith deconstruction, religious trauma, or any other challenges that arise as part of your journey.

Because of my background, I’m equipped to navigate areas that many traditional coaches aren’t trained for, such as:
— Complex trauma and emotional regulation
— Religious or spiritual abuse
— Childhood neglect and attachment issues
— Identity loss and rebuilding after deconstruction

At the same time, like therapy, you’ll find:
— A non-judgemental, accepting space
— No agenda, no “right” path, and no push to believe anything
— A genuine desire to listen and walk alongside you as you navigate your unique process

How often can we meet?

You’re welcome to book a one-off chat or meet on a regular basis – whatever feels most supportive for you right now.

Many people find this kind of faith deconstruction or religious trauma work deeply emotional and intense. What surfaces in our conversations can take time to process and settle, so some clients prefer to meet fortnightly or monthly to give themselves space between sessions.

Others find that the consistency of weekly sessions helps them stay grounded and make steady progress.

Ultimately, there’s no fixed schedule. As long as my diary allows, we can meet as little or as often as works best for you. We’ll decide together what pace feels sustainable and helpful.

Can we meet for more than an hour?

Absolutely. While most sessions last 60 minutes, I also offer 90-minute sessions for those who prefer a little more time to explore deeply or when we’re working through particularly complex experiences.

In certain circumstances, we can arrange longer sessions too. For example, if you’re processing something intense, working across time zones, or prefer fewer but more extended meetings.

If you think a longer session might suit you, just let me know when we’re scheduling and we can find what feels right.

What does a session typically look like?

I usually work within the framework of pluralistic psychotherapy. This means we collaborate to shape the sessions around you: your needs, preferences, and goals, alongside my professional skillset.

Sessions can be structured or unstructured, depending on what feels most useful. Typically, we begin by exploring:
— What you’d like to get out of our time together
— The steps that might help you move towards that
— How we can take those steps in a way that feels safe and achievable

What this might look like in practice
For some, it’s simply a space to talk openly, to get things off your chest and explore your thoughts and feelings in a non-judgemental environment. For others, it might involve processing how a particular theology, belief, or experience has caused pain or confusion.

And sometimes, we focus on practical challenges, such as:
— Navigating relationships where one partner is still religious
— Visiting family during religious holidays
— Coping with fear of punishment, hell, or rejection
— Finding meaning or purpose after leaving faith

In short, each session looks different because you’re different.
This is your time and you know what works (and doesn’t work) for you far better than anyone else. My role is to create the space and support you need to explore it safely and honestly.

Is there any support for me between sessions?

Yes. When you work with me as a client, you’ll receive free access to my private Discord community, normally reserved for Patreon supporters.

This online space allows you to stay connected between sessions, sharing reflections and asking questions of other members who are navigating (or have navigated) faith deconstruction and religious trauma recovery.

It’s a safe, supportive community where you can continue processing, find encouragement, and know you’re not alone in what you’re working through.

Will what you believe or your own journey be something we talk about?

Generally, no. Our sessions are a space for you – your story, your beliefs, and your healing. What I believe is largely irrelevant to that process.

It’s very common for people deconstructing from fundamentalist or high-control religions to unconsciously create new authority figures in their lives. Because of that, I intentionally share only what’s necessary about myself and my beliefs. This helps protect your autonomy and keeps the focus where it belongs: on you.

My role isn’t to model or guide you toward my way of thinking, but to help you develop your own self-trust and inner authority.

At its core, deconstruction is about discovering what’s right for you, not emulating my journey or anyone else’s.

How are sessions held?

All sessions take place online via Google Meet.

If you’re joining from a computer, you can connect directly through your web browser – no download required.

If you’re using a mobile device, you’ll need to install the Google Meet app first: iOS / Android

Is what we talk about private and confidential?

Absolutely. I take confidentiality extremely seriously. Everything we discuss remains private and will never be shared with anyone else, except in very limited circumstances required by law or professional ethics.

There are two exceptions to this:
1) Supervision
As a registered therapist in the UK, I’m required to meet regularly with a clinical supervisor. This is a standard part of ethical practice and ensures the quality and safety of my work.
If I discuss anything from our sessions in supervision, I do so without sharing any identifying details about you.

2) Legal and safeguarding obligations
I am legally required to break confidentiality and seek appropriate help if you disclose any of the following:
— You have plans to harm yourself or someone else
— You tell me about a child who is being abused
— You share plans to commit an act of terrorism
— You disclose involvement in money laundering or other serious criminal activity

Outside of these rare exceptions, everything you share stays completely between us.

Still have questions? Send me an email using the form below, and I’ll reply as soon as I can.

Work with me

If this sounds like the kind of support you’re looking for, please don’t hesitate to get in touch.

I’ll reach out to arrange a no-obligation 20-minute introductory call to see whether it feels like a good fit.

Availability varies; sometimes I have openings straight away, other times there might be a short wait. Either way, contacting me ensures you’ll be the first to know when there is availability to meet.

Want to arrange that free introductory call or still have questions? You can email me via the form below, or for a quicker, more casual chat, send me a DM on Instagram.

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Therapy & Therapeutic Coaching Sessions

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Get in touch / Join my waitlist

How I work…

Learning by sitting with and listening to

One person’s path to healing might be another person’s path of torture.

Deconstruction is not a one-size-fits-all journey

You are the expert of your deconstruction

No set path, just open exploration

Common issues in deconstruction

FAQs

Work with me

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