Therapy for individuals healing from
high-control religion and systems
A grounded, collaborative space to explore what matters most, in your own language, at your own pace.
How I work
Over the last 13 years, I’ve had the privilege of talking with thousands of people as they’ve begun (often reluctantly) the process of deconstructing their faith.
In the early days, I had far too many answers. Over time, I realised that answers were usually the least helpful thing I could bring to the room.
What people truly needed was someone who could sit with them and listen.
Someone who understood how hard this is.
Someone who wouldn’t tell them what to believe or how to move forward, but who would make space for them to process, grieve, and heal from the complex emotions that deconstruction brings.
In such a space, people can begin to trust their own thinking.
They reconnect with their emotions.
They rediscover their value.
And slowly, they start shaping what life after high-control religion might look like for them.
I’m a registered psychotherapist with COSCA (Scotland’s professional body for counselling and psychotherapy).
My role isn’t to influence your beliefs or choices. It’s to support you as you uncover what matters most, work through religious trauma or spiritual abuse, and build a life that feels whole, grounded, and authentic.
What we might explore
Faith deconstruction can impact every aspect of your life, emotionally, relationally, spiritually, and professionally. There’s no set list of what “should” come up, but here are some of the common issues I often find myself helping clients explore:
Emotional & Internal
– Guilt, shame, and religious trauma recovery
– Learning to trust your own thoughts and emotions
– Feeling stuck, lost, overwhelmed, or afraid
– Working through fear of punishment, hell, or being “wrong”
– Processing regret about choices made under belief systems
Identity & Meaning
– Rebuilding identity after leaving a faith tradition
– Exploring new meaning, purpose, or values
– Re-evaluating your worldview with freedom and nuance
– Grieving identity shifts or the loss of certainty
Relationships & Community
– Navigating loneliness, disconnection, or community loss
– Handling complex family, friendship, or leadership relationships
– Processing expectations, pressure, or disappointment from others
– Telling people about your deconstruction (or choosing not to)
– Finding new forms of belonging
And a myriad of other things. Whatever it is you are facing we can discuss it and how we might work together best to help you, even if that’s me putting you in touch with someone else :)
My therapeutic approach
I take a person-centred, pluralistic approach to therapy.
That means we work with what you find meaningful emotionally, relationally, practically, and psychologically. Different people need different kinds of support at different moments, and therapy should honour that.
Pluralistic work isn’t about pushing you toward a particular insight, tool, belief, or direction. It’s about recognising your unique history, needs, and ways of making sense of the world, and shaping our work around those.
You are the expert in your own life.
You know your stories, your wounds, your strengths, and the ways you’ve learned to survive. Therapy can help you hear yourself more clearly, experiment with new possibilities, and reconnect with your capacity for choice, safety, and self-trust.
There is no fixed path here. I bring no expected pace, no required worldview, no “right” way to heal.
Two people with similar backgrounds might need entirely different things: one may want clarity, another grounding, another emotional space, another practical tools, another meaning-making, another support with relationships or identity. Pluralistic therapy embraces that diversity rather than trying to narrow it.
My role is to collaborate with you, drawing on different approaches when they feel helpful. Because I’m trained in a range of therapeutic models, I can offer things like emotion-focused work, relational exploration, grounding and stabilisation, narrative work, values exploration, or simply a steady, safe space to talk.
Our work together, from my perspective, is much less about where you end up – it’s about ensuring where you get is what you wanted and that you were the one to get yourself there.
My hope is that in working together you are able to live your own life with agency, authenticity, and choice.
Practicalities
How much does it cost?
The suggested cost of my sessions is £60/$90 per hour.
I use a sliding scale, where we can discuss your circumstances and agree on a price that feels right for both of us. (I can’t go lower than £33/$50 per hour at present.)
Sessions beyond one hour can be arranged if needed.
Why offer both therapy and therapeutic coaching?
Due to professional regulations, therapy is only available to people living in the UK.
For those outside the UK, I offer therapeutic coaching, which employs similar approaches but is not a formal form of psychotherapy.
How often can we meet?
Most people meet weekly or fortnightly.
We can discuss what feels sustainable and supportive for you.
What does the average session look like?
Our first session will typically focus on what brings you to therapy, what you hope to achieve through it, and how we might work together towards that goal.
Beyond this there really is no set format. It entirely depends on what you feel will be most helpful (if that feels overwhelming, don’t panic, I’m here to help you figure that out throughout.)
Will we talk about your own beliefs or journey?
Only if it’s particularly relevant or supportive for you.
My role is not to direct your beliefs or values, but to create a space where you can explore your own.
I have zero attachment to you believing what I do, you can be an atheist, agnostic, christian, hindu or satanist for all I care. What’s important is that it works for you.
How are sessions held?
Sessions are held online via the Google Meet platform. You will need to have a stable, fast internet connection and somewhere private to do the call.
Is everything confidential?
Yes. This is the most important factor in therapy and I take it very seriously. If you don’t trust that our conversations stay in the confines of the sessions then you’ll never feel free to share in a way that can bring significant progress.
That said there are the standard professional and UK legal limitations, which I will explain before we begin working together.
Get in touch…
If you still have questions or if this feels like the kind of therapy you’re looking for, please don’t hesitate to get in touch.
I offer a free, no obligation 20 minute introductory call so we can get a sense of whether working together feels like a good fit.
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