As you probably know a couple of months ago I announced that my wife, Sarah, had decided to leave me. She was not happy with our marriage and decided she didn’t want to work on it. (You can read the full details here – A Personal Update: Things Have Been Better!)
As you can imagine it’s not been the easiest thing I’ve ever had to go through.
The process was going on for many months before I publicly announced it and so I’ve personally had a lot of time to process and work through a lot of my stuff with those who are closest to me.
I’m so blessed to be able to say I’m honestly doing really great.
The situation is awful and I certainly wouldn’t have chosen it. But I myself have grown so much personally through it all and have in many ways never felt more healthy spiritually and emotionally.
It really is the grace of God that I can say I have peace in the place I find myself.
Not only that but I even have hope and joy for the future – whatever it may hold.
How have I gotten here?
There are so many things that have helped me get to this place, I’m sure in the coming months I’ll talk about some of the things the Lord has shown me and the journey I’ve been on. Today I wanted to talk about one in particular though.
One of the biggest things that has brought me to this place of peace has been for me to realize I was misplacing my hope.
As I journeyed through Sarah’s decision to leave the relationship, without realising I was doing so, I managed to put my hope in her.
Now Sarah is an awesome person who is great at making decisions and a very reliable person.
However, placing your hope firmly upon anyone or anything other than God is typically a bad idea.
Because we are all human, we have our good moments and our bad.
Not only that, but we all have free will and often times will come to different conclusion about things!
My hope for the future, for my happiness, for my peace, was in Sarah making a certain decision.
It was a decision I wanted and ultimately one she didn’t.
I was never going to find peace or joy having my hope placed in her changing her mind.
It was only when I realized this and recentered my hope firmly in Jesus that I found my peace again.
You can’t really have peace when it hinges on someone or something else. Because nothing is certain in life… Except Jesus.
I think we all do this to some degree in our lives, usually in small silly things, but perhaps occasionally in some bigger things too.
So much of our pain and anxiety comes from primarily putting our hope in people or things rather than Jesus.
So why am I saying all this?
I want to challenge you…
Is there somewhere in your life you are feeling stress, worry, pain or hurt?
Is it possible that your hope is placed in something other than Jesus?
Is it possible you’ve placed your hope in something or someone that isn’t as unwavering as Jesus?
Because ultimately He is the only constant we have in life… The only one we truly can place our hope in.
If you want to rediscover your joy and peace the first step is placing your hope firmly in the one who is unchangingly good and is for you in every way!